Alcohol Problems, Addiction & Women
When women are struggling with alcohol or other drug problems, there is often a sense of shame and isolation. Addiction can lead people to do things that go against their own values (such as being a good mother, friend, spouse, employee, etc.). It can be helpful to talk with other women who understand.
It is also common to feel confused or ambivalent. Sometimes, it can be difficult to differentiate between social, moderate drinking and problematic drinking. Or sometimes, even though drinking is clearly causing problems, people are hesitant or ambivalent about changing. Ambivalence is normal. Getting support can help you decide what you want to do.
Women for Sobriety is a self-help program that was designed especially for women who are struggling with alcohol or other drugs. Their approach can be helpful for women who are not addicted yet but who are struggling with misusing alcohol/drugs or for women who are already addicted. Women for Sobriety emphasizes self-empowerment and building a strong, happy, sober life.
Women for Sobriety has a few local meetings in San Mateo, Burlingame, Morgan Hill, and Santa Cruz (as of May 2015). You can call or email them for up-to-date meeting information. They also have an online forum. Of course, use your own judgment when attending any meeting or using any online forum. If it does not feel helpful for you, please find another resource that is right for you.
Sometimes, self-help groups are not enough, and therapy is more useful. Therapy can be helpful in deciding what you want to do, identifying potential triggers, developing a plan to handle triggers, resolving any underlying issues, and finding more enjoyable activities.
Sobriety can be about healing and enjoying life, not stoically abstaining from alcohol or drugs. Early sobriety can be an exciting time of new growth, although it can also be painful at times. I encourage you to get all the support that you need.
(My writings should not be taken as advice. This blog does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are interested in therapy, I encourage you to call me or find another licensed therapist to talk with.) LMFT Lic # LMFT40414